Getting your lover back after a breakup is not easy if you don't have a plan of some sort.
When breakups occur there is almost always a feeling of despair and maybe guilt.
A lot of people become depressed and don't know what to do and without some sort of plan they can very easily make things much worse.
The plan must start within your own thoughts.
Do I want him/her back? If you cannot really answer that it is no point in going on, because without a firm yes to that question you will fail.
Then we must find out what really caused the breakup, it may well be something small that you are unaware of that has grown out of all proportion.
There is no point in trying to get your boy/girl friend back if the underlying reason is still there.
The plan must be based on a cool head.
Don't make any contact for about a month, no phone calls, sms messages, Emails or anything else.
This allows both parties to stop and think and not say or do things that they surely will regret later on.
A month without contact can in a lot of cases make your ex call at some point.
When we make contact eventually we must be casual and not try and force the issue in any way.
We must never come across as pleading.
Examples "Can't live without you" and "I can't even sleep" and so on.
Calls must be short and giving the impression that you are getting on OK without them, examples "Breaking up was probably the right thing to do" and "I haven't really had time to think about it" or perhaps "Coffee together perhaps, I am busy right now, I will call you" We must look good and act confidently so that the impression you give is entirely different to the to the feelings that you had with each other at the time of the breakup.
A new look and a new attitude works wonders.
With a well thought out plan carried out the right way you will get your ex back.