The best tips for getting over breakups will have you start by looking in the mirror.
No, this isn't about some deep seated psychological steps that must take place in order for you to move on.
It's about finding the beauty that's staring back at you.
Breakups are personal rejections.
It doesn't get more personal.
Some people can let this devastate them.
Those who are going to recover more quickly allow it to galvanize them into action, for their greater good, instead.
What do you see in the mirror? Don't begin with the flaws.
Begin with the good things.
Stick with the "skin deep" self assessment for the time being you can move on to other things later.
What about you is beautiful? Does your smile light up a room? Are your eyes full of life, light, or mischief? Is your hair the envy of women everywhere? What about you is beautiful and how can you make it stand out? What about you would you change if you could? Keep in mind the things that are beautiful.
Now consider what you would change if you could.
What's keeping you from making those changes? Common reasons are time, money, and motivation.
At the end of a relationship you suddenly have more time.
Motivation should be easy to muster now (since you're probably looking for some positive changes in your life), and money is almost always going to be a struggle.
You're just going to have to bite the bullet sometimes and make sacrifices to achieve the change you want.
What about the things that lie beneath the surface of the skin? There are plenty of personality traits that define you as a person and have a great deal of impact on how you relate to and deal with other people in your life.
Are any of these proving to be problematic in our romantic entanglements? Can you change them? Would you want to if you could? These are all great questions to ask yourself and knowing the answers can mean a world of difference for you and your relationships in the future.
In the here and now, asking and answering these questions can help you get over breakups.
How? They help by giving your mind something else to focus on or a sense of purpose.
The best tips for getting over breakups involve finding a renewed sense of purpose.
What can be better than to recognize your strengths and your weaknesses?