Do you just wish there was some magic potion for relationships? Especially when you are working at trying to save one? One of the biggest challenges soon after a break-up is the returned phone call.
Be honest, how many times have you left message after message after message? There is a sure fire way, but you have to have a plan, a complete strategy - that is the Magic of Making Up! Trust me, based on my own experience, you can not appear to be weak, desperate and definitely not obsessed.
If you leave a message that sounds like either of the ones below, you are doomed.
"Joe, please call me.
Why won't you return my calls? I need you.
" "Please call me it is an emergency, I have to talk to you.
" Now, to get him to call back you need to use curiosity and self interest to your advantage.
Did you know that they are two of the most powerful forces in the human mind? Consider what Joe would do if he received a friendly toned message like this: "Hi Joe, its Sue.
I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me.
Call me because I want to thank you in person.
" See - curiosity and self interest! You have got him wondering what he did and what do you appreciate.
IMPORTANT: Before you call, you must have a plan, an underlying strategy like what is laid out in the Magic of Making Up.
If you try this without a plan - you will do more harm than good.
What you do before, during and after you get the return call is more important than getting them to return your call.