I know that breaking up can be a hard thing. When we start a relationship we only want to be with that other person and we feel so happy, and then somewhere along the way, things deviate and they turn out different than expected.

Now, if you are having troubles in your relationship or you broke up and you want to get back together with your ex, read on, because this article is written specially for you. I wrote this article to anser a question that most girls ask themselves when in this situation, because I think it is important for you to know wether you can actually get him back or not. It is a pocket guide for assesing your situation, of sorts.

First of all, is he with another girl?

The thing is, if he is already going out with another girl, it will only hurt the three of you (and you most of all) that you try to get back together with him. Unless you knew that he wasn't happy with her, it would not be your best move to try to get him back after he is seeing someone else.

Everybody knows that a breakup can be a very difficult experience to go through. I know that all you want to do now is to eat ice cream and feel sorry for yourself but that will not help you. You need to think with your head and not with your heart if you want to get him back. You might think that you need him so badly, and it might be true, but you will only get results if you take things calmly.

Next, think about chemistry. Quite frankly, if you did not have chemistry at first you will never have it. You cannot learn chemistry, and that is why it is important that you are sure that your relationship had that "spark". If it did not, I would advice against trying to get him back. On the other hand, if you had it...

Now, if he is not with another girl and you have some chemistry going on (even if it has been long unused), you can get him back, and it is actually easier than you think.

Be that girl that he fell in love with. Think about it. Did you keep doing those things that attracted him to you in the first place? Didn't you just kind of take him for granted?

Learn to push the right buttons.

I know that breaking up can be a hard thing but if you learn to think with your head instead of your heart, you will have already walked half of the way.