Not everybody is cut out for the marriage gig.
Some people on the other hand have that special something inside of them to truly become a great spouse.
If you feel your marriage slipping, try some of these tips to see if your in it until death do you part, or just until you can afford a lawyer.
Step 1: Couple's Therapy: It sounds cliché, but the first step partners should take when their marriage gains cracks is to see a therapist.
You've got to go in with an open mind and not think of it as paying somebody $65 an hour to tell you how horrible you are.
You can learn a great deal from therapists...
if you want to.
Step 2: Join A Gym: This isn't a way to meet new hunks or babes, but more of a place for you to regain your confidence.
As you start getting back into shape, you'll notice how much better you sleep.
If your partner joins a gym as well, you both won't be as disgusted when seeing each other naked anymore.
Step 3: Start A Business: People could perceive starting a business as a way to invoke more stress into the relationship but you don't necessarily have to start a Fortune 500 Company.
If you become freelance marketers or mow lines you'll be doing something together and extra money never hurts.
Step 4: Take Responsibility: If your spouse constantly blames you for causing the marital strife, take responsibility and start doing the things they say you don't.
Make sure to take notes of all the new changes you're trying so if fights arise in the future, you'll have documentation and it will be their turn to look in the mirror.
Step 5: Separate: Maybe the best thing to do for all parties involved is to step back for a little while and spend time apart.
You'll either realize that you miss your partner and wouldn't want a life without them or enjoy the tranquil time away and come to the recognition that they are a poisonous part of your life.
Step 6: Contact Spouses Family: If you really feel your marriage is slipping, it might be time to pick up the bullpen phone and call your spouse's family.
Odds are they'll have a perception of what you two are doing wrong from an outsider's perspective and might even leak information told to them in confidence.
Step 7: Look To The Future: Try to think what your life would be like if you were to get divorced.
Could you handle seeing your kids only on weekends? Could you be comfortable if your partner was with somebody else? Realize that second and third marriages have a higher divorce rate than firsts so maybe doing some extra chores around the house aren't all that big of a nuisance in the long run.