It's been said time and time again, but at the same time, you also assume that you want to get your ex back following a very emotional break up.
But what if you're wrong and the break up turns out to be the best thing to happen in your life? Before you make any move to get your ex back, you have to take a look at the situation first.
Incidences that you just wrote off as unimportant could actually be a contributing factor to the souring of the relationship.
The answer to the why can be found in the when, keep it as unbiased as you can while reviewing your past with your ex.
Have you seen where you could have done things differently? Hindsight is twenty-twenty after all, and if you think you want to get your ex back, you have to accept that the break up is partly your fault.
Whether it's too much reaction, or lack thereof, the important thing is you realize your mistake and let your ex know you respect their decision to separate, and apologize for your faults.
So what now, you ask? You take charge of your life and rebuild anew.
You have to relive your life and only when you strike out on your own will you realize if you want to get your ex back.
Getting him to take you back as a partner and getting him to accept you as a friend are two entirely different things.
Have fun with your friends, travel to different places, rekindle a hobby that you have forgotten, and if you get asked out on date, go for it.
Moving on isn't as bad as you think.
If you're lucky and your ex called up to say hi, talk to him like you would a friend.
Just because you now have a life, whether or not you still want to get your ex back, friendship is still the easiest way to heal and mend trust issues.