Have you and your girl broken up over something that was your fault? If she was the best thing that ever happened to you, are you full of regret and all you can think about is how to get girl back? The good news is there are steps you can take--no, must take--to get girl back.
The bad news is she's not going to take you back as is.
Why would she drive the same old model that caused the wreck? Get Girl Back--Step One Was the breakup caused by something you did or didn't do? If there's any possible way to fix it, fix it now.
Find a way to make it right any way you can.
This will be tough if it's something you promised to do a million times and never accomplished, but doing this deed is vital to your success.
If it's too late and there's no way to fix it, do it or undo it, realize you've still got a knock against you and move to step two.
Get Girl Back--Step Two Apologize.
If you haven't accomplished step one, it's doubtful a bunch of flowers, your best outfit and a smile will be enough.
You're going to have to find a way to touch her heart by making amends for your wrong.
In what way did you harm her? Can you restore anything in that area? Find some way to make it up to her for whatever you did or didn't do.
Say you're sorry and would change what happened if you could.
Mean it, show it, prove it.
If she accepts your apology, great.
But don't expect her to fall on your neck just yet.
Move on to step three.
Get Girl Back--Step Three It's now time for some wooing, like going back to square one with her.
If she just met you today, you'd be sure to show her your best side.
This is worse, because you hurt her in the past, but it's better, because you know what pleases her.
Your mission is to make her want you back.
If she still harbors any anger and doesn't trust you, you have to be patient and forgiving.
Show her you've changed.
You have, haven't you? I certainly hope so, because if you haven't mended your ways for good, these steps are leading you to straight to another disastrous breakup.
Are you still angry? Maybe you feel that whatever caused the breakup was unimportant, too trivial to matter to you at all, but she caused a big stink.
You grit your teeth every time you think of it.
Take it out on paper--go somewhere private and pour out every single stinking thought or feeling in you until you've drained it all.
Burn the pages and notice how much lighter you feel.
If you can't write it, walk it off, run, pound something.
Or find a song that expresses how you feel and play it over and over again--loud.
Now you likely feel much better and can show her your best side, be sweet when you talk with her, honestly smile when you see her.
Your good qualities will shine again.
You know what makes her happy.
She knows what makes you happy.
Get that going between you again.
Pay attention to her, listen, watch for signs that she's opening her heart to you again.
How often does she smile at you? Does she talk nice to you? Does she look forward to seeing you again, ask for help with little things, seek your advice? Congratulations, your efforts to get girl back are working.
She's impressed, wants to be with you, remembers why she fell in love with you before.
Are you done? Yes and no.
Get Girl Back--Step Four See Step Three.
That's right, this step is a continuing effort.
Stay alert for any signs that you're missing the mark and messing up again.
You ought to recognize them by now and can correct your course to make sure you never break up and have to get girl back again.