Do you keep finding yourself at the same end result when it comes to relationships? Why do all the men you date turn out to be jerks, emotionally unavailable or simply non-committal? You have dated men that seem to be so completely different from each other but the end result is always the same.
What is it that makes all your relationships end up the same? The answer is simple: It's you.
Now don't get upset.
Think about the only common factor in all your relationships...
it's you.
Sure, it's easy to blame the men for the failed relationships, but the truth is, it takes two people to make a relationship and two people to break one.
No one person can do it alone.
If you are the only one that is working hard in the relationship then you've chosen the wrong man.
If he is the only one that is working hard, he will choose another woman.
If you are living your relationships expecting them to be fairy tales then you are not living in reality.
Your thoughts are reflected in your actions and words.
You may be poisoning your relationship and not even know it.
You may have unconscious words or actions that are driving a wedge between you and your significant other.
Even worse, you are doing these things because "that's the way you always did them".
Do you find yourself doing a boyfriend evaluation shortly after you've begun a relationship? Are you looking for ways to improve or change him so that he is a better person for you? Have you considered the things you want to alter or change may never be a problem in his eyes and you are stuck with him exactly as he has proven himself to be? Stop basing the depth of your relationship on the length of time spend together.
Before you begin your timeline evaluation, consider the fact that men don't evaluate relationships based on time but on raw emotion.
You may be pushing him before he's ready.
If he's not ready to take the next step, you can't force it to happen just by suggesting or pushing for the next level.
Quite the contrary; he will interpret your persistence as pressure.
Break your vicious cycle of breakups with new approaches on your relationship.
Don't expect perfection or put timelines into effect when you start again.
Let him see that you are the woman he wants to be with instead of trying to convince him with words.
Let the relationship take a natural course of action and enjoy the path.
When he sees you are the woman that enhances his life, he will be the one that wants to go to the next level.