After you break-up with your ex, the first thing most people do is to either run to their family or friends to seek comfort.
The people you run to, naturally, will do their best to make you feel better and some might even give out advices on how to either totally move on and forget them or get them back.
Some people believe in the tactic of ignoring your ex completely after the break up, especially if it has just been days or weeks since then.
They base this tactic on the popular saying that goes "distance makes the heart grow fonder.
" They believe that if you make your ex miss you enough, they will make the first move to bring the old relationship back.
While the saying may be true, there is also another one somewhat in contrast to it and it goes "out of sight, out of mind" which means that if you let yourself be invisible to your ex for quite some time, they will eventually forget you and totally move on to another relationship.
Both tactics can work.
It all really depends on the kind of people involved in the relationship.
Getting your ex back with no contact may be possible and then again, it may be not.
If you want to get your ex back without contact, try to consider the following tips and who knows, it might be possible for you.
Before you start doing anything, ask yourself this simple question: "Can I face the consequences if ever this does not work for me?" and give yourself an honest answer.
If your honest answer to yourself is yes, go ahead and start trying.
But if you know for a fact that you can't handle it if the results don't turn out to be as what you expected, don't even think about starting this.
Chances are, you'll just get frustrated and try other "wrong" tactics that will push him away from you forever.
For a start, here are a set of rules you have to follow in case you want to try the "no contact" tactic to get your ex husband back: • Do not intend to do something that will provoke a reaction coming from your ex.
This rule is to make sure that you are not creating a loophole in this whole "no contact' tactic.
You may try to do something or say something that will make him react in a way that he has to engage in a conversation with you and you will say "I didn't even talk to him, he talked to me first.
" That is not excusable.
• Never be the one to initiate communication, more so conversations that can lead to "friendly" relationships.
This would just ruin the whole point of having no contact with him, obviously.
• Do not call him to talk about anything unless it's an emergency.
By emergency we mean something that is a matter of life and death.
You missing him so much is not, and will never be an emergency.
You, your children or anyone in his family being rushed to the hospital or getting involved in an accident, though, is a valid emergency.
This tactic need not last forever.
If it has been a month and he has not shown any signs of wanting to be in touch with you again, stop right then and there.
Perhaps it is fate's way of telling you to either stop or use a new tactic.
Your objective for using this tactic is to make him miss you and realize that he wants you back, not make a fool out of yourself trying to see if that person will ever do something to get you back, even if it takes a lifetime.
There should be boundaries to everything you do.
During your "no contact" time, allow the wounds that the divorce / separation left to heal.
Let yourself be stronger and learn from your mistakes.