If you've recently split up with your ex, then you are probably feeling miserable right now.
In some cases, a separation is for the best, but how do you know if this was the one? There are constant stories right now about couples getting back together and finding love because they were willing to give it one more chance.
Why did you split up in the first place? Is it something that your ex did that made you angry? Now, are you looking at the situation objectively or subjectively? The first involves a third person perspective without any prejudgment or opinion factoring into the viewpoint.
The second obviously only takes one side of a dispute into consideration.
Making a relationship work involves two people working together and ignoring the small things that can wreck a happy couple.
Guys -- does she talk too much? Most women are naturally social and verbalize feelings to show that they are hurt.
If the guy tends not to listen, she feels that she is being ignored and not being cared about even though that may not be the truth.
Ladies -- does he tend to ignore you or not listen? Most men are by nature, problem solvers and even though you would prefer to just have your guy listen, he only sees a quandary that can be easily solved in his opinion.
If each partner took into account the needs of the other without any reservations, relationships would be a piece of cake to make work.
However, in our complex society, many factors go into the making of a couple.
These include family and friends to please, job and social responsibilities as well as individual needs and ego.
These things often get in the way of a couple making their relationship work rather than fighting over everything.
The key here is communication, clear and without pretense.
Each side must effectively let the other know how they are feeling.
By clearing the air without fear of reprisal, couples can build a healthy avenue for communication and make their union grow even stronger.
Now go get back that ex!