The first thing I ask when a wife asks me "Can I get my husband to love me again" is how sure she is that her husband is not wondering how to make her love him again.
Did you think about that angle in the marriage? It is heartbreaking to be in a marriage when you love your spouse but do not feel the love in return; that really is a tough spot to be in.
And many times it is exactly what it seems to be, one sided love.
Whatever happened to the marriage vows and unconditional love? Unfortunately a lot of things happen after the rice is tossed, the wedding cake eaten and the thank yous mailed.
Life is what happened when you made other plans.
For many people, no matter how a job starts out, eventually it sucks.
That is why they call it work and not play.
We have a tendency to bring our frustrations home to our families.
Sometimes we even treat our coworkers better than our spouse or family members; probably because at work we have our game face on, climbing the corporate ladder or just surviving.
A husband and wife may even drift apart and stop doing the things for each other that each was excited to do when love was new.
Maybe one or both even start daydreaming about someone else; possibly even taken action in that regard.
Next thing you know, you are asking can I get my husband to love me again.
Let us look at an answer from a different angle.
Are you sure that your husband is fully feeling the effects of your love for him? Might he be asking can I get my wife to love me again? It is not uncommon for one spouse to begin neglecting the show of affection to the other and the other spouse then naturally withdrawing in a similar way.
Now, all of sudden, neither husband or wife feels as if they are loved by their spouse.
You might have to be the first to change.
Reach out to your husband with some small, seemingly insignificant, indications that you care for him.
Find excuses to touch him, a slide of your hand across his back, a rub of the shoulders, play with his hair (if present).
Do not make a big deal out of it at first, just casual, as if there is no reason you would not do something like that.
Then, despite your busy schedule, make some time for him.
I know, everyone is way too busy and there is no time and no energy left over for your marriage.
That is probably what started this problem in the first place.
But make an effort to make time for your husband and ask him if he can make time for you too.
Do something together you always used to like to do but just don't anymore.
Reconnect as people first, lovers later.
Do not rush anything or apply pressure.
We would all like to solve our marriage problems overnight but that rarely happens.
It will take time to undo what took time to do.