It is no secret that relationships are difficult to maintain.
In a society that is growing busier by the day, with more and more distractions, relationships are falling apart left and right.
Divorce rates are increasing, and people are growing frustrated and lonely.
Rather than wonder what could have been, consider what went wrong, and then take action to rectify whatever the problems were.
There is no guarantee that you will be successful in winning your ex back, but if you follow a few of these tips, hopefully you'll be able to rekindle old flames and move forward on a brighter future together.
The first tip in trying to get your ex back is to honestly assess the relationship, and find out why you want him or her back.
If you are simply lonely and feel like you just need to be with someone, then your motivations may not be healthy.
If there were outside influences that caused strain on your relationship, decide of those have become a non issue, or if they were overblown to begin with, and something you can accept for the better.
The second tip, would be to look inward.
Before looking at what your ex did that got under your skin, look at yourself and decide whether you had a role in the break up.
This is not a direction to assign blame to yourself or your ex, but a suggestion to look at both sides of your relationship before moving forward.
If you know that you played a significant role in the breakup, you'll need to figure out whether that is a behavior you can fix.
Likewise, if there was something your partner did, you'll have to decide if it is something you can accept.
In the aftermath of a breakup, it is all too common to remember the good times, neglecting what drove you apart.
Be as objective as possible.
The third tip on working to get your ex back is forgiveness.
You need to forgive yourself, as well as your ex for what drove you apart.
Re entering a relationship with unresolved issues is a set up for failure.
Being open and honest with one another is the key.
Expecting that the two of you will decide it is worth another try, and then not putting in any work is an exercise in futility.
Getting your ex back takes work.
In turn, keeping them takes more work.
If you aren't willing to put the work in, you may want to let go of the relationship and move forward.
This ties into the final tip.
Letting go when it is time.
Not every relationship is destined for the long term.
It is okay to have relationships that fail.
If you decide to try again, understand that your ex boyfriend or girlfriend may not share your feelings.
Be prepared to accept this, let go of the relationship, and move forward.