If you're an attractive single lady, you should have no problem meeting the right type of men online, right? Well, in theory this should be true, but meeting men online can be a completely different experience with a whole new set of rules than meeting men in-person.
The online world has its own pitfalls and traps that every woman needs to be aware of if they're going to meet the right type of men online.
Otherwise, they can expect to face the same results of disappointment and meeting everyone but the right type.
But there is hope and a way to meet the right type of men that actually works.
The online dating world has its own set of rules and understanding of how communication and interaction between people works.
The first rule is that you can't expect people to be who they say they are online.
Most people exaggerate their online profile and put up a front.
In reality, this isn't much different than how people behave in the real world, face-to-face.
People put up fronts as being confident, successful, or even outgoing, all the time.
The difference between the online and real world front, however, is that you can't sometimes detect a front by observing a person's actions, words and expressions.
In the online world, this is almost impossible to do.
So people hide behind exaggerated accomplishments, interests, features and even completely different personalities.
And in the online world, it's extremely easy to do.
Due to the fact that you can't read a person's actions and body language, and the other person can't read who you really are either, the foundation of an online relationship is based on a lie.
Since 99% of the profiles posted online are not accurate, it's impossible to tell whether an online personality is a person's true identity.
Often times, a person's online profile has nothing to do with who they really are.
Single ladies need only to ask a few probing questions to find out what's verifiable according to their profile, but to get to know what a person is really like, it takes vulnerability and honesty.
When people put up a profile that is less than honest, it's difficult to know what their real motive is in communicating with you.
The online format is also the perfect environment for serial daters, since they have already perfected what to say in order to strike a date with a single lady.
This not only makes the honest relationship seeker harder to find, but also casts doubt on everyone you meet online.
Right off the bat, as a single lady you are suspicious of everyone, and rather than cultivating the trust needed for a successful relationship, there is doubt and mistrust in the process.
Online, people may not be who they seem to be, and they may have motives that are different than simply looking for a mate.
Some men create a profile just for the fun of it to see what could happen, some are actually in relationships or even married and are trying to find ways out of their current relationship.
And then there are the small percentage that are looking to scam you - the attractive single lady - out of everything you own.
With no screening process, the online world has often been compared to a jungle.
If you are stronger than the rest and have a keen ability to survive the jungle environment, then online dating can be a great place to meet people.
But if you're like most people and don't have time to play the online dating game and would rather meet a more serious relationship-minded person, then matchmaking may be for you.
Matchmaking involves screening people and offering suggestions based on the knowledge of both people.
This knowledge isn't based on fronts, exaggerations or false impressions; instead, they're based on honest, open and personal revelations.
The best way to begin a relationship is with establishing trust from the very beginning, and with matchmaking, this is already established before you even meet your date.
So, at not fault of your own, you may not have been meeting the right type of men online because you may have been looking in the wrong place to begin with.
Maybe it's time to match yourself with a new promising reality.