It is very common to hear stories of men ending up losing their home, kids, car and all their money following a divorce. Why is this?

Women are often given the advantage in the divorce process. Also men are also often ill-prepared legally. With the mental strain and emotional upset involved in a divorce, thinking straight can be difficult. But this is one of the most important times to keep a clear mind and prepare yourself for the legal battle ahead.

Feelings for your recently separated partner may be still strong, but these must be put aside. Look at the process from a clinical and undetached view as much as possible. Start with a list of what you believe you should take from the relationship. Be realistic. Be careful not to be "kind hearted" and give away too much, at the same time, do not try and get everything. But it is best to lean towards trying to take too much rather than not enough. If you go into negotiations not demanding much, it is likely some of this will be taken from you and you will be left with less than you deserve.

During legal negotiations (be it in court or otherwise), be careful not to let any emotion be involved. Attempt to keep your replies calm and without resulting to swearing, name calling or pointless accusations. The more you present yourself as a calm and centred person, the better your chances of getting what you asked from the negotiations.

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Not many people know, but if it was the woman who filed for divorce in the relationship, you can actually use this to your advantage. But if this wasn't the case, there is still a lot of steps you can take to win your divorce. Another thing many people don't know, is that you could save yourself thousands of dollars by NOT going through the court process. And this is very possible with some careful planning.

Top Tips -

* Stay calm
* Try and settle out of court (with guidance)
* Make a list of the things you want from the divorce

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