Applying Affirmations To No Avail! "How do I use positive thoughts to change my emotions when I don't believe the thoughts? I try changing my thoughts, but I can't believe affirmations that others say I should use.
They just don't seem true.
" These are the most frequent concerns from the layman who is attempting to incorporate positive thought in personal growth.
The feeling that you are being fake frequently emerges when you first try to put the principles of positive psychology to work.
You attempt to make yourself believe ideas about you that you don't feel are real, like you are trying trick yourself into somehow believing you are a good person.
However, deep within, you hold tight to the old beliefs that you really are not worthy.
The Sticking Point Your inner wisdom is no dumb bunny! You can't wish and cajole your way to believing something about yourself that doesn't ring true.
Instead, get unstuck from self-esteem issues by a more accurate, adult assessment of yourself.
Most people who have self-esteem issues carry those beliefs from long ago.
In whatever way the thinking ran amok, it now needs to be revised.
Most likely, the incorrect assumptions that you have made came from experiences as a child or an extremely vulnerable adult, when you were led to believe that your worth was nil and that you couldn't do anything right.
Unfortunately, it is usually other adults who have their own issues who plague a vulnerable person with worthlessness.
Yes, it is also possible that other experiences have brought your self worth into question.
Whatever the etiology, reassessmentas an adultneeds to be brought to bear on the incorrect thinking.
Change in thinking is the only rescue.
Moving From The Negative People who love you will confront your distortedthinking.
Friends who know your strengths are usually hoping to get you on another path of thinking.
Therapists will challenge your wrong self assessments.
Lastly, the most important resource is you.
Forcing yourself to confront distortions in self thoughts is powerful.
It only works, if you are willing to strip yourself of incorrect self-beliefs.
Admitting that you are not the bad person you may think takes courage.
After all, you may have spent a good deal of energy on assessing yourself negatively.
Because of your own assessments, events that you are sure point to your lacking, or being vulnerable to others has set worthlessness deep into your psyche.
To turn around your focus and let it be more plausible, accurate beliefs regarding awareness requires you to stop denial and, at times, self pity.
Small Steps Turn Into Giant Steps! Once you let go of old belief patterns and accept positive possibilities, your world will open up.
You will no longer need to take refuge in thinking patterns that sabotage your personal growth.
It is hard to fathom why some perfectly fine people need to see themselves as lacking.
However, letting a little light into a rigid, old belief system can open you to possibilities.
If friends and family aren't helpful, and you can't turn your stuck place into openness, get help.
It may not even be that difficult, if you break down your defense system and accept a more truthful assessment of yourself.
The Least You Need To Know: 1.
It is common to feel uncomfortable with change in thinking.
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Your negative thoughts are not likely to be completely true.
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Your inner wisdom can't be fooled.
You must find truly positive aspects of you.
This mission, should you choose to accept, requires: 1.
Letting go of old defense mechanisms that hide the truth.
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Sometimes you need others to help you find the truth.
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Honestly owning your strengths is a good place to start.