Most people are not readily equipped to handle a marriage crisis.
After all, who goes into a marriage expecting to get divorced or even be on the brink of divorce? So when you feel yourself ripped apart by a marriage on the brink of collapse, it can be overwhelming! Every morning you wake up and are gripped all over again by the pain.
Where do you turn for help? What do you do? Is there a way to save your failing marriage? The reality is that not all marriages can be saved.
But an even more important reality is that far too many marriages end in divorce.
It doesn't have to be this way! You can save your marriage even in a crisis whether your spouse is trying to save it or not.
You will have to take the action though.
It will not be sufficient to simply be a nice person and hope the problem goes away.
The single best thing you can do right now for your marriage is to get control of negative emotions and replace them with positive and more resourceful emotions.
Your words and actions over the next few hours, days and weeks will make or break your chances to save this marriage.
The negative emotions that are so common during a marriage crisis (begging and crying, anger, jealousy, arguing, threats, guilt trips and constant smothering behavior) absolutely have to be avoided.
Replace these negative emotions with confidence, calm, belief in your marriage and personal resolve to do whatever it takes.
Also you must acknowledge your spouse's pain and give them the space and freedom to sort out the way they are feeling too.
Often this can create a period that will buy some time and get them wondering if divorce is really the best answer.
Then you can begin working your plan.
What plan you might ask?