- 1). Communicate with your spouse. A marriage must have communication to keep a sense of intimacy on an emotional, physical and sexual level. If meaningful communication has stopped, you need to seek a third party to help you learn to talk again. Lack of communication can destroy your marriage if you let it continue. Seek counseling for this problem.
- 2). Be aware that broken trust is very difficult to mend. Seek help. Counseling is a safe place to work through this issue and reestablish trust.
- 3). Pay attention to the kinds of words you use when talking to each other. Along with fighting and bickering, watch out for sarcasm, belittling, and demeaning comments. All of these things show that respect and fair play have eroded. When arguments escalate into these behaviors there are bigger issues than the one the fight is about. There may be deep seated resentment and even boredom. Always seek help if conversation has stopped being civil. There are ways to resolve conflicts and you can learn them with help.
- 4). Get professional help immediately at the first sign of physical violence. Any type physical violence is absolutely a reason to seek professional medical help. If the violence includes hitting each other rather than the walls, you should get a trial separation even before you get counseling. If you don't trust yourself or your spouse with physical safety, get out right now and get help after you do.
- 5). Look online for further help. There is a family and marriage counseling directory online to find a counselor and to give live help over the phone.
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