Ladies, I need to talk straight to you about your relationship with men. I not telling you these things because I know everything, this could not be further from the truth, I have had many problems with men and relationships.
In the past I have done these vary things, and I have seen my girlfriends do the some things, it was only a short time ago, and I began to realize the pain it caused in the relationship. For both of us; I asked my self, why was I doing this?

Men are hard for us to understand and some of the things we do actually will drive them into the arms of another woman. Yes, we do this to them, yes it is partly our fault; we cause them to seek what they need from another.

Men need so little from us, but we sometimes forget they are men and not another woman. We talk and talk and talk and we want them to talk about their feelings also. This is so hard for men; they are not in touch with those feelings the way we are.
Men are the hunters, not the gatherers. Men are the fixers, not the home makers. Men will be with you in your environment and not change a thing if youre happy. Men will live in pink and lace, if youre happy, they do not care. Honestly do not ask him what he thinks about the color of the paint you want, he will nine times out of ten say to you That looks fine, sweetie and you may say this to him in return, Honey, please tell me what you really think, I want to know?

Now you have put him on the spot, he has already told you it looked fine to him. Now he is not sure what you want from him, I swear, he doesnt know what he should say to you that will be right. This is what he may be thinking to himself, Whats wrong with the color, is there something I should have seen and I did not, I can not tell if there is something wrong with the color. Poor man, he has no idea that you do not think there is something wrong, but because you asked for his REAL opinion he is now lost and thinks you saw something wrong with it and he did not see it.

Women on the other hand can have an in depth conversation about paint color that could last for days before we finally come to a decision about the right color. NOT A MAN, he can not do that, stop asking so many questions of him. He said it was fine, now you have to let it go because he really thinks it is just fine.

Men only really want us to be happy, they will go out of their way to help us do what ever we want as long as we allow them to be what they are; men.

So when your dressed to go out to dinner; we always ask, how do I look? we do not and should not do that, all you have to do is look at him, turn around slowly and watch his eyes, they will inform you of his true thoughts, then you gaze into his eyes for 30 or so seconds and smile a sweet feminine smile, he will come to you, without speaking a word. This is a powerful communication that you can have with your man.

Masculine is to give, feminine is to receive. You should be having quiet conversations with him, through a look or a gentle touch. Allow him to give of his own free will; do not ask for him to give to you.

Trust yourself when it comes to your womanhood, your femininity, your mystery. Your ability to shine in his eyes comes from knowing your inner feminine side and allowing his outer masculine side. It is this allowing of his masculine side, which is sometimes hard for us. We have bad habits, we as women need to think about what we say before we say it, ask the right questions and allow his response to be his true response, get out of the habit of asking a second or even a third time. When you re-ask the same question, your insinuating that he is not being honest or that he is deceiving you in some way. This is not the case, his answers are simple and direct, there is no need for him to evaluate every situation, and remember he is not wired the same as women.

There is a lot of great advice out there for people in difficult relationships, and losing each relationship and trying desperately to re-kindle a dissolved relationship, take what works for you and use it. Men and women are different; it is the differences that need to be understood for you to have the successful relationship you deserve.