- 1). Get social. Even if you're shy, you need to put yourself in situations that will force you to be social. If you hear your co-workers talking about going to happy hour, join them there. Instead of heading to an empty lunch table, join one that's already full and get involved in the conversation. Take advantage of any friends or family you might know in the city and network through them to see if they know anyone that has similar interests as you.
- 2). Sign up for a class. There are usually adult extension classes at local colleges in a subject you might be interested in such as cooking or photography, or sign up for a fitness club, karate lessons or painting classes. Studying the same thing will already give you a common interest with others.
- 3). Join a church. Most churches have lots of activities outside of simply attending service. Volunteer to help teach Bible school, organize a bake sale or join the church choir. Churches are usually welcoming to new people, and you'll make friends right away if you open up and talk to people.
- 4). Get outside. Your neighbors might spend the morning watering their gardens, walking dogs or exercising in your neighborhood. Strap on some sneakers and join your neighbor for a run, or strike up a conversation about organic gardening with a neighbor that has a green thumb. Walk to a nearby park, coffee shop or other local hangout where people tend to migrate, and strike up conversations there.
- 5). Get people's information. Even if it's just a first and last name and a promise to become friends on Facebook, you need a way to get in touch with new people so you can organize a get-together. It's not helpful to meet people that you really like if you'll never see them again. Exchange email addresses and phone numbers and when you say you'll be in touch, mean it. Invite your new friend for coffee or dinner so you can get to know each other better. If you both have kids, organize a play date for them so you can talk while they get to know each other.
- 6). Be personable. Be willing to engage strangers in conversations, and be yourself. Be upbeat and cheerful, as that is the kind of personality that attracts people to you. Look people in the eye when you speak to them, and be genuine and respectful.
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