Ready! Everything is done between the two of us! We cannot live like this any longer! We need to get divorced.
Are you sure? Here are a few pieces of advice you might want to try before saying that things can't go on and that you have no other option but to get a divorce.
First of all, you need to clarify your expectations.
Put some order into your thoughts and figure out what you want from your marriage and what you husband wants from your marriage.
Don't wait for a right answer or for a wrong one.
The only thing that matters is whether you have the same opinion about the matter or not.
This is the most important.
In order for a couple to be happy and fulfilled, the two partners need to feel and see things from the same perspective.
Then, don't take your divorce as a romantic situation.
People usually say that you'll find someone else to share your life with, that you can start over and other such things which are meant to encourage you, but all these things do is to stop you from seeing the real facts.
Statistically speaking, most of the second marriages fail and there are higher chances that your second marriage will fail.
Approximately fifty-five up to sixty per cent of the second marriages fail as compared to the fifty per cent of the first marriages.
Then, avoid feeling like a martyr of your own marriage.
Don't put a halo around your head and think that you are the only one that has problems in that marriage only in order to make the others feel mercy for you.
Of course, it seems that the marriages in which the father gets involved are a lot happier.
If the father spends time with the kid, if he is active when it comes to his family life and so on, everything turns out to be just fine.
A marriage is just as alive as those who are part of it.
We all change, we all have our truths and your bond will always suffer those changes, too.
So, get ready for something like that and don't give up in time.
Last but not least, don't avoid getting professional help if needed.
If you fight and you want to break up, you should think twice and take all the necessary measures to prevent something like this.
Ask for professional help because this is only way you can solve your problems sometimes,