Of course arguments! There may be several reasons why a relationship would not last long. Infidelity, dishonesty, money, and among many things are just some of the reasons. But how do you avoid to get a heated argument with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or your best friend?
It is a fact that heated arguments can cause irritability which often leads brutal incidents to hurting or possibly murder. Uhuh, I know, you better get to fix things and avoid arguments as possible as you can. You don't want to lose somebody dear to you for some simple, ridiculous, and nonsense things do you?
So What Not To Do or Say During Arguments?
- Put Down Your Ego - When you know that an argument arises, put down your ego and listen. It is because of this ego that kindles to make us shout and swear. Yes it is true that if we do this so, we feel inferior, But the brighter side is that, you can preserve your humility by not uttering incriminating statement to the other party.
- Listen - If your boyfriend or girlfriend speaks (or yells, shout, or whatever annoying) things, bare in mind that he or she had spoken those words because he or she is hurt. Let him or her do the talking and just answer if he or she asks you something. Remember, do not make the argument burst into flames, try not to escalate things ok?
When you listen, you will understand. And if you understand, you can evaluate the situation well. And if you can evaluate things well, then you can think well of a solution to resolve the problem. Logical? - Talk Gently - If it is required or necessary for you to talk back, then talk but be very careful on the words you chose. Try not to use foul words or words that can and will remember bad things to your partner. Speak softly and clearly. Don't let the pressure affect your tone - be calm.
- Say Sorry - You may be thinking that when saying sorry makes the other party feel they have the upper hand of the argument well it's not it. Saying sorry make the other party's ear ring. Making him or her to slow down and try to listen to you. Just say "I'm so sorry for bringing up this argument" or "Sorry for this little misunderstanding, we can't let this go on for so long" or be creative and please don't use words that can offend him or her.
There are still many things you can do to avoid such heated arguments with your partner. I'll be posting some more tips and I hope it will be useful for you in my next post. See you for the next post!