- 1). Time. Time is the teller of tales and will make or break a relationship. When you're in love it seems like time does not exist, but let time pass and as it does, differences will become more apparent. When those differences pop up in the relationship, the way you deal with them, will determine the longevity or likelihood of your in love relationship. To love is to know what you don't like about them and choose to love them anyway. If the relationship is destructive or unhealthy, this isn't love, this is fear. After time passes, a good way to know for sure if you are in love with someone, is to do the following.
- 2). Work. Make a list of what you love about someone and what you hate about them. If you can live with what you hate about them, then you love them. I've heard the saying, "Choose your love and love your choice". So many people have been led to believe that after choosing your love, you don't have to love your choice, but this train of thought usually ends in divorce. If you have met someone and you are already thinking of what you want to change about them, good luck. They are who they are and if you don't like it, find someone else. Lets someone who will love what you hate about them. True love is letting go of someone when the shoe doesn't fit.
- 3). Fun. If you can't have fun without someone, then your love is selfish love. Instead of being in love with them, you are in love with how they make you feel, what they do for you, or where they live or what they do. This is not love, this is selfish love. You love them for all the right reason for you and all the wrong reasons for them. This sort of love is the most common and leads to the altar and then to the court room. I guess it comes back to loving yourself and your life first and then sharing your beloved life with their beloved life.
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