To keep relationships healthy and growing they need nurturing and maintenance.  Relationships are fragile and unfortunately they break-up, leaving the individual upset and at wits end.  This affects the children and others that are living in an environment of anxiety, stress and frustration.  If your relationship breaks-up you may feel you want to get back at your ex,  but is it the best step to take?  It can be the best step if you do it right.  It may actually repair your relationship by showing your ex how important you are and were to them.  So not only are these 5 tricks to get back at your ex but they are wonderful methods for getting your ex back as well.

Trick 1:  Be strong.  Let your ex think you have moved on just fine without them.  Being needy applies very well to broken up relationships, but they will not work if you want to get back at your ex, so stop begging, being clingy, or exhibiting desperation.  If your ex feels you have moved on, he/she will realize they have not.

Trick 2:  Minimize communication.  It may seem wrong to close the doors of communicationwhen your goal is to rekindle your relationship, but it is the most important step to get back at your ex or getting your ex back.  Closing off communication will allow him or her to stew for a while.  This will allow your ex to clear their minds and realize how valuable you are.

Trick 3:  Be flexible.  Do not demand they move out or pick up their things at a certain date.  By being flexible, a good listener and a sympathizer you will surprise your ex when they see this side of you.  It may inspire them to build the lines of communication that were lacking when you broke up.

Trick 4:  Get the heck out!  This is not the time to be alone.  Get together with friends out of the house.  You need to get a social life and enjoy some entertainment.  This does not mean dating or even paying attention to the opposite sex.  By getting out and enjoying your time with your friends will not only be therapeutic for you, but it will convince your ex that they have lost a gem.

Trick 5:  Simply be yourself.  There is a good reason why you fell in love in the 1st place, so going back to being yourself will allow your ex to remember why they loved you at the start.  This renewed self will surely rub off on your ex as well.