Your spouse wants a divorce. You don't. Exactly what should you do? Or better still, what should you avoid doing?

First off, do not let your emotions take control of you. When you become emotional, you are powerless to take control of the situation and you will have an inclination to behave based on your anger and your misery. Rather than casting painful words at your spouse or threatening him/her, stay cool and composed. Easier said than done but you have to be in control of yourself to be able to plan out your next move, particularly if you still want to save the relationship and stop the divorce.

Don't let your spouse to play with your emotions. If he or she is showing a decrease of commitment to your marriage while maintaining some facade of family life as well as sexual interest with you, all this person has been doing is playing with you . You may be disturbed about losing him/her, thus, you just sit and stomach this. But you have a choice. You can let this scenario remain as is to buy some time and wish that your spouse will get back to his senses to save the relationship. Or you can put more regard on yourself and put a stop to this deceit and not allow yourself to be manipulated by him/her.

Do not beg and entreat his/her mercy. Showing him a pitiable state will only give him the emotional edge. You do not want to save the relationship and get him back just because he feels sorry for you. In fact showing your spouse that you are in a miserable state may just drive him/her away even more and you will completely lose your chance to save the relationship and stop the divorce.

Do not lose dignity. Show him/her that you are still that self-assured, individual that he/she fell in love with and this could even lead your spouse to feel sorry that he has asked for a divorce. Your calmness will make him/her ponder if he has made the correct decision to divorce you. A divorce scenario can bring out either the best or the worst in a person and this is the time to let him/her see the best in you. This will hold him in awe of you and make him become aware of his mistake.

It is best to be poised and composed during the whole of all of this. Hysterics and emotions are not desirable in a divorce scenario. Bear in mind that you and your spouse entered into marriage because once upon a time he/she was so in love with you. You may just have forgotten what those characters are that you had that made him fall in love with you. When your spouse decided to ask you for a divorce, he/she possibly expected that you would be hysterical and freaked out. Disprove him and be something unexpected. Turn the tables on him/her and make him/her have second thoughts about his/her decision to divorce you. Do this and you will definitely enhance your chances to save the relationship