Have you ever built something with wood, and some hammer and some nails? Perhaps a birdhouse when you were younger, or maybe something more complicated, likes a deck for your backyard, or perhaps a spice rack? Even if you've never set foot into a hardware store, you are probably aware that such an undertaking should at least include some kind of blueprint, or plan.
Measure the wood, cut the wood, assemble the pieces in the proper order.
All this is necessary to create the final product.
What would happen if you went to the hardware store, bought some wood, whatever was on sale, some nails that looked cool, and then sawed the wood into pieces based on your mood, and hammered them together based on how they were lying there in a pile? While you might get lucky and create some piece of contemporary art recognized as a brilliant insight into the human condition, no bird in her right mind would want to build a nest in whatever contraption you hammered together.
So why is it then, that when men talk to women, specifically gorgeous women, instead of carefully planning words to create a specific effect, the default strategy is to just blurt out a jumbled mix of word salad in hopes she is magically convinced to give out her phone number? Words are tools, just like the tools you can use to build a spice rack, or a birdhouse, or an intricate sex toy.
(If you've seen the movie "Burn After Reading," you know what I'm talking about!) And when you can structure your language in such a way that elicits the right emotional response from the woman of your dreams, you can engineer a blissful sexual encounter just as easily as you can build a spice rack.
The secret is to elicit, respect, appreciate and further explore her criteria.
He criteria are anything that she feels is important about anything, and the underlying emotions that go with it.
Despite what the logicians will tell you, humans are emotional creatures.
Everything we do is based on emotions, whether we realize it or not.
And when we are going after something that we want, we are really going after the emotions that go along with it.
When you can find out what is important to her, and recognize, explore, and appreciate the underlying emotions as important and valid, she will feel incredible feelings of connection and desire.
And if you can get her talking about deep emotions, and get her to describe them in detail, using specific sensory language, you are way ahead of everybody else.
This may take some time and practice, but the more you do this, the more quickly you will realize how incredibly powerful this is.
So much that you will see yourself realizing much more success with women than you've ever imagined.
So be careful.
Simply because you can easily tap into her deep desires and readily connect them to you, doesn't mean you should do this with every girl you meet.
Use caution, as this is a powerful tool, which has the potential to be both wonderful and devastating.