There are many places on the web designed to answer this question. But common sense can really make a difference after a breakup. And simple courtesy can go long way toward healing your injured relationship. Very often one of you will not want to be too courteous, so this may be one large challenge.

If you're obsessed with your lost love, wondering, "where do I go from here?" then follow this simple advice. You'll give yourself the best chance of reconciliation if you follow this one plain rule: don't be a game player! This is super important, but sadly many people play games during these difficult times because they have to be in total control. If you can make the other person think that you don't care, or you care more than you really do, you're manipulating them and that can feel good in the short term, but it won't last very long. Just remember, what goes around comes around. They will get theirs. If you are the bigger person, you will win in the end.

Don't be a jerk. This holds true always, but sometimes the bitterness with a breakup makes us act more viciously than we normally would. Even if you're hurt, the fact that you want to know, 'what do I need to do to reclaim my love?" shows that you're ready to forgive and perhaps forget. If you couldn't, you wouldn't want them back, you'd be glad it was over.

Now, think about how you've been acting. If you were your ex, would you look forward to spending time with them again? Or would you dread every text or email? Are you just plain nasty? Even if you feel like raising all kinds of issues, please don't. Work very hard at controlling your anger and pain, and being the better person that they would want to be in their lives. Seek counseling if necessary. It does help. Be on your best behavior and make your ex remember what attracted them to you in the beginning. They'll remember your positive traits. Then you'll have a better chance of reconciliation.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. It will be hard work, but maybe totally worth your time. Good luck.