Any day now a court will decide Heather Mills McCartney's financial future.
Although it certainly never hurts being married to a billionaire, she essentially "blew it".
Heatherearns an "F" for the way she has handled her divorce to the former Beatle.
I have never seen a woman in greater need of an emergency Divorce Makeover than this soon to be ex-wife.
Her behavior has been so egregious, difficult (even her own lawyers dumped her), and apparently stressful to Paul McCartney, he landed in the hospital for heart surgery.
Had she played her cards better, Paul would likely have agreed to an even more generous divorce settlement than some of the recent figures the press has been reporting, and the case would have settled.
Now, with a settlement offer no longer on the table, her fate lies in the hands of a divorce court judge.
In her case, this could mean the loss of millions and millions of dollars.
The rule in a divorce is, Play Nice! If you want your husband to work with you, not against you, he has to be able to stand the sight of you.
Heather seemed bent on confirming for Paul that he made the biggest mistake of his life-marrying her.
(His second biggest mistake was having no prenup.
) Heather refused to act like the Lady she so desperately wanted to be as she social climbed her way through her marriage, since she just couldn't keep her big mouth shut.
We all witnessed her self-planned media fiasco when she blanketed the airwaves with demands that Paul take responsibility for the divorce, and then demeaned Paul and declared herself a victim.
Every misstep she made has cost her tens of millions of dollars in potential settlement money, and earned her the scorn and hatred of the free world.
Now you probably don't have access to the millions of dollars in marital assets that Heather has, but here's my tried and true advice for any woman, wealthy or not, who is engaged in an acrimonious divorce battle: 1.
Never Let Him See You Cry.
Don't reveal your weaknesses to your spouse.
Heather broadcasted to the world that the divorce had driven her close to suicide.
In doing so, she handed Sir Paul and his lawyers ammunition on a silver platter to have her declared an unfit mother.
As any good divorce lawyer would, I would pounce on that video tape and offer it up to a judge as evidence of Heather's mental instability.
If she is indeed a suicidal mother then she's not fit to care for their daughter Beatrice.
Because of her public admission, she risked losing custody of her daughter altogether.
If a court had determined Heather is a danger to her self or others she might have been restricted to only visitation with Bea.
And you can bet those visits will be supervised-not a great situation for a Mom who wants some quality time with her child.
2.
Control Your Emotions and Stay Calm Heather lost control of her emotions and lost her bargaining power.
That allowed Paul to call the shots.
Heather acted irrationally rather than intellectually, and it's going to hurt her credibility when she makes demands at the bargaining table.
If you are involved in a nasty divorce, nothing tells a judge or your spouse that you're not worth the trouble than blowing up...
or melting down.
So, keep your cool, both in and out of court, so you don't lose control of the divorce proceeding.
3.
Don't Bad Mouth your Spouse Not only did Heather publicly accuse Paul of assaulting her, she denigrated Paul's first marriage to his beloved Linda.
Not a smart move.
We're talking about Sir Paul here-perhaps the most beloved icon of women and men around the globe.
We're talking about a Knight, after all, and she aired his dirty laundry in public.
Those kind of revelations can come back to bite you down the road.
They already have hurt Heather.
The more dirt she spilled the more she was despised by Paul, his family, and the public.
After that happened, Paul had no incentive to make the divorce process an easy or lucrative one for Heather.
4.
Play Nice with Your Spouse and Your lawyers Be careful, you reap what you sew, especially in divorce court.
Heather ticked off her lawyers and got herself fired from the best legal team in London.
Mishcon De Reya represented Princess Diana in her Divorce from Prince Charles.
Now they want nothing to do with Heather.
She needs to learn to "fake it till you make it"-act nice, and people will treat you nicely, even if deep down they don't like you very much.
Heather Mills needed to make drastic changes to improve her position on the divorce playing field and change her divorce report card from an "F" to an "A".
So, Heather, I deliver the above advice, with love from me to you.