If you watch old movies or television shows, the depiction of out of control teenagers is a little different than what they look like today.
James Dean was the "rebel without a cause", defiant, angry, and snubbing society.
He wore jeans and a white t-shirt, smoked cigarettes, and was miserable.
When we were in high school, they were the "rebels" - the ones who smoked out near the football field or didn't do their homework.
Out of control teenagers today do more than smoke cigarettes.
They can drink alcohol and take part in illegal drug use, break vehicular laws, cut school, vandalize property, and any number of things that could easily put them in jail or worse, send them to an early grave.
But, not all out of control teenagers are that out of hand.
Some are just angry, miserable, and defiant around the house.
They seemingly have no respect for their parents, the rest of their family, their possessions, or their home.
They do everything that they can to irritate their parents and make everyone in the home miserable.
Anything and everything you say to them seems to not be heard.
These types of teenagers are primarily defiant and lacking in respect for authority, particularly their own parents.
This is a behavioral issue that needs to be addressed as soon as possible, because it can and will get much worse as your child goes through puberty and beyond.
If you are living in a household with a teenager that you have to be wary of, who steals, who lies, who swears, or threatens you or anyone else in the house, then you have a problem.
Many parents of out of control teenagers with these behaviors constantly beat themselves up trying to figure out what they did wrong along the way.
"Could I have done something different?" "How did I screw this up?" are questions that typically go through their mind.
But the reasons are far more complex than this and really may have nothing to do with the past.
The important thing is to focus on the present and how you are parenting now to intervene in your out of control teenagers behavior.
There are numerous resources available to get you and your teen back on the right track.
Bottom line is that you shouldn't have to walk on eggshells in your own home, fearful of upsetting the delicate teenager with the mean temperament.