What is the #1 most important parenting tip of all time, for a child of any age?With all the Do's and Don't's and all the things on our minds everyday let's cut to the chase.
That would be a definite, hands down very simple answer; to just LIVE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT WITH THEM.
Whatya mean? Live in the present moment? Of course I am in the present moment! But not really...
well at least not for more than 15 seconds at a time! We as parents, well actually we as humans just have SO MUCH on our minds all the time.
Thinking, worrying, planning, etc.
etc.
etc.
Even when we are doing something we usually have 10 other things on our minds at the same time.
Now I will tell you from experience, Kids Know the Difference when you are "All There" or "Not".
And Let me tell you they really LOVE it when you are! If you can do this, They will just SHINE! You will get more hugs and more smiles than you can ever imagine.
Now how do I do this? It sounds easy but go ahead and try it.
Your mind will keep slipping off to think about "other stuff" The funny thing is the "other stuff" never means as much to you as your child does.
Then at the end of the day you always carry that guilt because you really did not connect like you really wanted to.
This WILL go on for the rest of your life.
So why can't you focus on what matters? I am going to tell you the secret and at first you may not like my answer, but hang on for the next part.
The Secret is It Takes Practice.
It is really like training your brain.
As soon as you realize you are wandering just look in her eyes and remember what is so important to you.
If this is truly important to you, you have to keep practicing this.
Now don't beat up on yourself, just gently realign with what is important.
In time you will start to live in the present moment in every area of your life and this is Conscious Living.
And It is Awesome! Now, as I promised; the next part.
This part makes it so much more easy.
And it is all about your EMOTIONS.
You were born with emotions and they tell us so much.
The majority of humans do not use them as a tool to help themselves.
But this is exactly what they are.
Paying attention to the way you feel is way easier than trying to watch your thoughts.
Okay, this is how it works.
You want to feel good.
You definitely know when you don't feel good.
If you are not 100% "there" with your child engaging with them on all levels and appreciating them with all your heart or helping them with all your soul your emotions will tell you.
You just will not feel all that great.
Ask yourself how do I want to feel right now? Then clear your head, look into your child's eyes and be with them.
Be with their heart.
Be with their soul.
Play with them.
Talk to them.
It really doesn't matter what you do, just be there 100%.
Now, check how do you feel? If you feel great, energized, uplifted and happy then you know you are doing it! You will make your child the happiest child on the block and You will be the Happiest Parent EVER!