Sometimes it seems too easy to determine what men want. Read most personal ads and the one thing they have in common is the word slim, slender, fit, petite or some other euphemism translating to not fat. Go to a singles dance or event and the men all seem to hover around the half-dressed trashy bottle blonde who never leaves alone. When youre not physically perfect, its easy to get discouraged.

But the latest statistics from online dating services show that the priorities are changing. Men are starting to value other qualities, such as a sense of humor, a positive attitude, and intelligence even more than looks.

Do these statistics reflect an actual change in what men want? Consider these factors. At the traditional singles gathering, visual clues reign supreme. Does that trashy blonde ever seem to develop a serious relationship for any length of time? Probably not.

In an online dating situation, the parties correspond by email before meeting in person. Absent the visual distractions and social competitiveness of the singles dance, other values move to the forefront.

Furthermore, the singles dance is often seen as a source of immediate gratification, while online matchmaking sites are more about establishing a serious relationship. And while some men are all about one-night stands, many want a serious committed relationship.

In order to understand what men really want, you have to first understand that they are easily distracted by the visual. Your man may be 100% committed to you and still cant help but notice an attractive woman walking by.

Men are also more motivated by actions than words. Telling him you love him doesnt mean as much to him as acting like you love him. And, while women dont mind working ata relationship, men want to be comfortable within the relationship. A sense of humor is essential for that comfort. Get through the little disasters of life by reminding each other well laugh about this later.

A positive attitude, in a mans eyes, translates to not bitchy. Treating him with respect makes him feel special in your eyes. Respect is often self-sustainingthe more you treat him with respect, the more he will behave in a manner that deserves respect. Conversely, if you dont treat him with respect, he will be less likely to even try.

The one thing men want above all else is trust. And while one might consider intelligence to be a measure of IQ, the result of years of education, or some other arbitrary measurement, the one thing he will interpret as intelligence is being smart enough to trust him. To not throw a jealous fit when you see him looking at that pretty girl at the mall.