Have you just gone through a break up and wondering how to get your Ex back? Most people who have gone through a break up work on moving on from the relationship but in many cases it is possible to work towards getting back with an Ex. If you are prepared to put in some work rather than play a victim role, it is possible to rekindle a relationship.

Relationship break ups happen for many reasons, it could be a single event or over time due to behaviours your Ex could not deal with any longer. Taking some time to examine where the relationship started to go wrong helps you to discover how to deal with the specific incidents should they come up again. You can get your Ex back but you need to want to make the relationship work on a long term basis and to do that you need to understand what went wrong the first time around.

This period of introspection does not mean you should beat yourself up and get depressed. We can not change the past but we can learn from mistakes we made during and use the knowledge to help reconcile a broken relationship.

You should also work on your self confidence and self esteem. After a relationship break up it is natural to feel you can not live without the ex partner and spiral into negative behaviours and attitudes. If your Ex sees you as desperate or needy they likely will not be open to the possibility of renewing the relationship. Do not hide away from the world, go out, socialise and network. By appearing confident and able to cope on your own you will have a better chance of getting back together with your Ex.

Never try and make your Ex jealous or try to get back at your Ex. These are the worst things you can do as it will just confirm to your Ex that the relationship is best ended and that they should move on. You do not want to push them further away and encourage them to move on completely if you want to get back together with your Ex.

Fixing a broken relationship will not happen overnight, but by taking these first steps you will be well on the way to winning back your love.

*Examine the reasons why the relationship ended.
*Learn from any mistakes.
*Do not beat yourself up!
*Stay confident.
*Keep socialising, get out and have fun.
*Do not try and make your Ex jealous
*Do not try to get back at your Ex.

Letting everyone - including your Ex, know how strong and self confident you are and that you can cope well outside of a relationship are the first steps to inspiring your Ex into get back together with you.