A lot of women find themselves numbed after going through a few bad relationships.
It seems as though the more relationships they go through, the less receptive they become towards men who walk into their lives, no matter how attractive or desirable they may be.
Ironically, these same women wonder why it gets harder and harder for them to find any satisfaction in their love life.
The reason for this is actually quite simple - it's many women's way of coping with the hurt.
When a relationship turns out badly, especially the first one, many women instinctively try to stay away from anything that closely resembles their bad experience.
In this case, it's love and companionship.
If you've felt the need to be extremely careful with a relationship after the previous one ended, then you probably know what I mean.
The problem with this way of coping is that by trying to avoid pain, you're also unconsciously avoiding love as well.
This is the reason why subsequent relationships seem less and less fulfilling for you.
And unless you change the way you cope with the pain, you'll never find the truly satisfying relationship that you're looking for.
So what's the proper way of dealing the pain? Put simply, you'll need to love yourself.
You'll need to learn to accept the things that have happened in the past in order to keep yourself open to the blessings that flow into your life.
Now this may be hard to do at first.
After all, whenever anything resembling a relationship happens in your life, a little voice inside you starts yelling and waving red flags at you.
This is the same voice that keeps telling you to be careful, and it's hard not to heed the warning signs.
The key lies not in suppressing that voice, but accepting it - loving it, actually - in order to turn it into a friend.
Here's a little exercise.
Walk to a wooden table in your home and place your hand lovingly on it.
Talk to it in this way, out loud if you can: "Table, I know you were a tree once.
I know that once you were in a lush green forest, minding your own business.
Then you got cut down, sawed, pounded, pressed, and shaped into what you are today.
"I'm sorry.
"I'm sorry that you had to go through all of that.
So I'd like to thank you for serving me unquestioningly, by letting me have my meals on you, by letting me earn my living on you, by simply being there when I need you.
Thank you.
I'll never forget that you were a tree once.
I promise.
" You may find yourself crying a little after this exercise.
But this is good - you're getting into terms with things you're taking for granted, such as the voice in your head.
Remember that the voice that keeps telling you to be careful is just there to protect you.
Don't suppress it.
Instead, talk to it.
Thank it for protecting you.
Love it.
And promise that you'll never try to ignore it ever again.
This may sound silly to some, but once you become at peace with yourself, you'll soon be at peace with everything around you.
And you'll soon be more appreciative and open to a truly fulfilling, satisfying relationship.